New Year's Eve approaches (at least for those following the Western Gregorian calendar).
That's the time when lots of folks get all excited about "resolutions." We make these grand plans about doing something differently in the new year.
Well.
I've made a grand plan for 2013. Unfortunately, I can't implement it until ... oh... October at the earliest. (Perhaps I should set a duplicate of this post to re-publish itself in October as a reminder).
I plan to go on strike. Well, not completely, but in a general sense -- but only as it relates to all the holiday hoopla. Why?
It's all because of the list. You know the list -- that thing you create when you realize that there are too many details to leave to chance? My list for the holidays has gotten out of control. Worse, it seems to indicate that I am the only one in my house for whom this is true. And that means that while I wasn't watching, I took on the responsibility for all the tasks (this does not mean that everyone asked me to take this on... I just sort of did). This is not a good thing (nope, not even for the folks who are basking in the glow of having it all taken care of for them).
Let me show you what I mean: Here's a more or less detailed breakdown of the prep for the Thanksgiving Feast
| Task to Be Done | Person(s) Who Could Do It | Person Who Actually Does It |
|---|---|---|
| Clean Dining room and Kitchen to prepare for the feast | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Shop for Groceries for the Feast | GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Prepare the Turkey and put it in the oven | Kitty, Bookworm or GolfPro with training or instruction; Shadow | Shadow |
| Do the Prep work (cutting potatoes, apples, slicing celery, etc.) | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow - this year with help from Kitty |
| Make the Waldorf Salad | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Make the Mashed Potatoes, Sweet Potatoes, Beans, etc. | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Set the Table | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Bake the crescent rolls (Pillsbury... not even from scratch) | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Carve the Turkey | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Golf Pro |
| Do the prep work for the gravy (chopping gizzards etc.) | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Varies - sometimes Shadow, sometimes Kitty, sometimes Golf Pro |
| clear the table | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| strip the carcass | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | GolfPro |
| Kitchen clean up - (dishes etc) | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Make the turkey stock for soup | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Make the turkey soup | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
You get the picture. It get's worse for the Season of the Gift Giving Frenzy. The feast part looks pretty much the same.... though I did all the prep work except the gizzard cutting this year. But there's more to it all than just the feast.
Here's an outline, in broad strokes, of the stuff that gets done in our house.
| Task to Be Done | Person(s) Who Could Do It | Person Who Actually Does It |
|---|---|---|
| Clean the First Floor to prepare for the Solstice Party |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Send out invitiations to the party |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, AND Shadow | Shadow |
| Shop for Groceries for the Party |
GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Prepare the food for the party (including marinade for the famous flank steak) |
Kitty, Bookworm or GolfPro with training or instruction; Shadow | Shadow |
| Vacuum the stairs |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Golf Pro or Shadow |
| Purchase Holiday Cards |
GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Write Holiday Newsletter | Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, and/or Shadow | Shadow |
| Address, sign, stuff and mail Holiday Cards |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro and/or, Shadow | Shadow |
| Shop for Holiday gifts for Kitty and Bookworm |
GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow, with confirmation or approval by Golf Pro |
| Shop for Holiday gifts for extended family |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, and/or Shadow | Shadow with some input from Golfpro |
| Wrap, Pack and ship gifts for far flung family and friends |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow |
| Purchase Holiday Tree |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, and Shadow | GolfPro, Shadow and Kitty and Bookworm |
| Decorate Holiday Tree |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, and Shadow | Bookworm, Kitty, and Shadow |
| Set out other holiday decorations |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow (when it happens, which it didn't this year) |
| Put up holiday lights outside |
Kitty, Bookworm, GolfPro, Shadow | Shadow, sometimes with help from GolfPro (when it happens, which it didn't this year) |
| Make gifts (knitting mostly) |
Kitty, Bookworm, Shadow | Shadow |
| Find and acquire stocking stuffers | Golf Pro, Shadow, and... now that they're older, Kitty, Bookworm | Shadow, and Grandma (yes, even from afar!) |
| Fill Stockings | Golf Pro, Shadow, Bookworm and/or Kitty | Shadow |
| Prepare Holiday Breakfast | Kitty, Bookworm, Shadow and Golfpro | Shadow |
| Clean up after Holiday Breakfast | Kitty, Bookworm, Shadow and Golfpro | Shadow |
| Prepare Holiday Feast | Kitty, Bookworm, Shadow and Golfpro | Shadow, with a little help |
Oh yes, and clean up after .... that's me too.
I note that there's only one place where Shadow doesn't show up in the far right column. That's stripping the turkey carcass before it goes into the stock pot. (Although, truth be told, I did do some of that this year - then again, so did Kitty's boyfriend).
This is not to say that I don't enjoy all (or at least most) of that stuff, or even that I harbor resentment for doing any of it. But it is getting pretty exhausting to do so much of it without much help. And I don't think I'm doing it without help because the others in the house would refuse to help if asked -- they've just gotten used to my doing it. Furthemore, if I do all the gifting, no one else gets the fun of finding a perfect gift, and sitting secretly with the knowledge that the recipient is going to be so pleased!
By the time the Great Gifting occurs, I'm wiped out.
So... Next year.... I'm hoping to remember to write up a sign up sheet instead of just a list, and to solicit help from my family members. Then, I won't feel frustrated when someone asks me "what did we get for...." Because then, that sentence won't mean "I assume you took care of this even though I never mentioned it, so.. .what did you buy on our behalf to give to this person, cause I didn't buy anything".
So, that's my resolution.
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