In addition to that big change in approach about which I posted yesterday, I had also written up three general resolutions for 2013.
1) Plan ahead. I will try this year to look forward to the various events and holidays, to have our activities by choice and not default.
Hmm. I did okay sort of. For the most part, activities were by choice, but choice was a bit limited because I did really well on living day to day, which means that I didn't do so well with looking far ahead. And, to be honest, the living day to day part was because I let myself be a bit too busy.
2) Let go of the need to control: as with my promise not to box myself in to doing it all at the Holidays, I'm going to try to use that planning ahead stuff to identify what needs to be/ought to be/could be done, and share the joy of the doing.
I did really well at letting go of control. It wasn't necessarily the control over doing everything, but more the attempting to control what wasn't mind. The biggest part of this was in letting go of the need to "help" everyone else (i.e. control THEM and their issues, problems etc.). I employed the "choose your battles" approach to choose not to battle where I didn't need to.
This means that I got frustrated from time to time when letting go of control meant that my house wasn't as neat as I'd like. But I figured out ways to balance that.
Proof that I succeeded came at our Solstice Party. Kitty began moving about with care about two days before the event; she was waiting for me to freak out about the not-perfect condition of the first floor of our house. Normally, I'd do that; I needed to control it all, and to present a perfect house (yep, I feared being judged by my house's ability to mimick a magazine spread). This year, I made sure it was clean, I vacuumed, I de-cluttered, but I didn't obsess. People arrived, it wasn't perfect, and I was calm. Kitty was perplexed and nervous -- the blow up she'd been girding herself for never arrived. (See? don't worry!).
I managed to hire someone to do some cleaning, and accept what she did and how she did it. Yes, there was that bit in the spring with the folks who didn't do what they were hired to do, but that wasn't a gripe about how they did what they DID do... more a real issue with hiring folks to clean the floor and have them not touch the floor.
I've not yet managed to completely let go -- if the girls just are not doing the thing I need to have done, I don't let that go. But when they do it, I let them do it their way.
3) Keep learning, and growing.
Oh yeah. I totally did this. I'm keeping this for next year too.
In 2012, I graduated from Massage School (yeah, yeah, with honors). I got my license, and embarked on the joy of practice. The state and the national certification board both require that I take an average of 12 hours of Continuing Education each year (the state counts in 2 year stints, the National board in 4 year stints). The state also gives you a pass during your first license term. That means that technically, I don't NEED to take any CEU courses til 2015 -- but I need to have completed 48 hours of class by 2016.
In 2013, I took over 100 hours of continuing education courses and began certification programs for two "modalities": Zero Balancing and CranioSacral Therapy. AND I completed my training as a Usui Reiki Master/Teacher (that course sequence doesn't qualify for CEU training).
I'm loving the learning!
And I think that achieving the mentality changes and letting go of control really counts as growing.
So... looking back .... while 2013 was a challenging year (there was plenty of hard, personally and familially and regionally and nationally and globally), 2013 was a good year, with lots of growth and learning and accomplishment.
Here's to another, with less hard and more growth!